Just because a person has multiples doesn't necessarily mean they have had invitro fertilization. Case and point: My sister, Ashley, has twin boys who are 4...no fertility methods used whatsoever. Her method of getting pregnant----going off the pill & getting pregnant the night after (or the afternoon after :) she quit. She & Aaron are fertility Gods! Nate & I....emmm, not so much. We had to work hard and do lots of not so fun things, but when we had babies, we had babies! This brings me to a comment I heard tonight in Target. I saw a girl I graduated with...15 years ago! I think I remember her name, but I'm not sure. I passed her & this is how the conversation went:
Her: Well, Hi
Me: Oh, hi...how are you doing?
Her: Pretty good. You have kids?
Me: Yes, I have triplets..they are 2 1/2.
Her: TRIPLETS!?
Me: Yep
Her: So, you had to do invitro, then. (She says this very matter of fact & very loud!)
What I wanted to say was, "The last time I saw you was 15 years ago & I guess that means we are best friends & I want to tell you all about my personal business and how I had to go thru several cycles of invitro & a few failed attempts. My triplets were frozen, by the way...yep...just like a Popsicle."
Let me say this; it doesn't bother me to tell people I had to do IVF. If someone asks me nicely or seems genuinely interested, I'm all for telling them. My hope is to help anyone who struggles with getting pregnant. I want to let them know they aren't alone. I want to give them our story.
The problem I have is when total strangers will walk up to me in a store & say, "Are all them yours? Did you have to do them fertility treatments?" Sheesh! But the girl tonight just rubbed me the wrong way. It was like the 3rd sentence out of her mouth & she was just so sure I had to have invitro. There's nothing wrong with having invitro, people (unless you are the OctoMom :). But don't just go up to a perfect stranger & stab your way in to their personal affairs. You may get one who isn't as pleasant as I **fluttering my eyes**.
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Totally agree!! I am always happy to share our infertility story with anyone that is interested. But, some people just have a tone in their questions or comments that makes me very uncomfortable and defensive. I always wish that I had a good comeback for those people, but usually I just get all tongue-tied and walk away.
UGh, I totally know what you mean. I recently had a store clerk ask me if I'd taken "them fraternity pills". Sigh.
Just don,t tell them. When they ask just say "INVETRO! Gosh no, Nate,s a sex god. He can,t keep his hands off me and I lay eggs faster than a head hen in a chicken coop!" HA HA! Just jokin'! Love ya!
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